tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1817595904494843772.post4717245275966122687..comments2024-03-24T17:05:20.708-06:00Comments on When Life Gives You Lemmons: What do you DO all day?!LLhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11194834748090369779noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1817595904494843772.post-34712519394726727202014-02-26T15:02:23.289-07:002014-02-26T15:02:23.289-07:00Sometimes being a mom in life is like being a mom ...Sometimes being a mom in life is like being a mom on an airplane--when the oxygen masks come down, you need to put on your mask and then help your child. If you are not feeling filled, it's hard to be the parent that you want to be--so think of the time that you use to put on makeup and take a shower as time that you are helping yourself to become a happier person and a better mom and wife. As for letting Cal play on his own, many child care philosphies stress the importance of some independant play--see http://www.janetlansbury.com/2012/11/7-myths-that-discourage-independent-play/ as an example. Perhaps if there is something that he likes to play with alone (an activity center, a play kitchen, etc) it can be put somewhere close enough that you can talk to each other and he can see you, but that you can each engage in your own "work." Lastly, like Brittany mentioned, I have had some luck with getting the kids to "help" so that I can get some chores done. A rag to wipe with, (Finn can even use a bottle of water to squirt the floor or windows), helping to find the socks in the baskets of clothes and match them up, doing active things like running toys from the living room back to the playroom. You are doing such an outstanding job, juggling so many balls and not letting them all fall!Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17309435344261304395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1817595904494843772.post-55991621750702373552014-02-19T09:30:55.079-07:002014-02-19T09:30:55.079-07:00Amen to everything Missy said. It's impossible...Amen to everything Missy said. It's impossible to count how many times the spirit has guided me on the mothering front. My days are never the same and I'm always so worried about the balancing act.<br /> In addition to what's already been said when my daughter got to be around 17 months she never wanted to be alone, but I still had to get some things done. So I started letting her hold the hangers while I put the shirts on or giving her a rag when I wiped down the kitchen etc. Sometimes we would just sing songs while I swept or I’d clean her room while we played in it. The only one I haven’t figured out how to incorporate her in is dishes I do that when she’s in bed. You're an awesome mom and I’m sure you are doing a perfect job. Great post I love your blog.<br />Brittany Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07018589408354999274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1817595904494843772.post-54489035196776483992014-02-18T23:01:51.612-07:002014-02-18T23:01:51.612-07:00Sometimes you hold or play with your child because...Sometimes you hold or play with your child because you want to, and sometimes you do it because they want to. But it is also ok and healthy to let them explore and play on their own. As Cal gets older he will also love to play with other children. You are awesome...try not to worry!Julihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10640431965311048114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1817595904494843772.post-35838519900573484532014-02-18T22:02:23.800-07:002014-02-18T22:02:23.800-07:00Every child, mother, father, and family is unique ...Every child, mother, father, and family is unique and has different needs. I agree with Missy that every day the "important" things change and you are entitled to divine help and inspiration. Jeffrey R. Holland always seems to say things best and this talk always brings be comfort... https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1997/04/because-she-is-a-mother?lang=eng I especially loved the paragraph starting with "One young mother wrote to me recently that her anxiety tended to come on three fronts..."<br /><br />And thanks for letting me be Cal's babysitter =) He is so darling!!<br /><br /><br /><br />Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13142050940210260766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1817595904494843772.post-66396757567336819772014-02-18T21:22:18.413-07:002014-02-18T21:22:18.413-07:00So basically, I'm pretty sure that EVERY mothe...So basically, I'm pretty sure that EVERY mother has this problem. We feel guilty no matter what we do. So here is my advice after almost 9 years of trying to figure out my days as a mom.....<br />Follow the Spirit. I find that if I start my day with a loose "plan", and then ask Heavenly Father to lead me, I fit in everything that is important. Now, everyday the "important" things change. Some days my kids need more from me...and some days they are content and happy and so the house gets a bit more of my attention. I have just started working part time for the first time since becoming a mom, so I am re-learning this myself. Just remember that you entitled to divine help as a mother :-)<br />(Sorry to write a novel in your comments, this is just something that I have struggled with so much as a mom).Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07585144633541949258noreply@blogger.com